The 'other woman' in the Marty Braemer affair just posted her side of the story at the FFF. Now, everyone there is supportive of Marty, but when the woman comes on with her very real grief, they turn on her in the grand tradition of 'blaming the victim'.
Who started the affair? Does it even matter? Still, the real story is not Braemer, or the woman involved, but the 'blame the victim' mentality being demonstrated at the FFF. All the 'Christian love' is now being channelled toward sweeping this woman under the carpet. Through the miracle of the internet, we can see backyard gossip, and wonderful bible based character assassination, being played out in all it's glory.
"It breaks my heart to see how easily you have convinced most people on here that your humility and penance is real, just as you convinced me that our relationship was orchestrated by God, when in fact, you betrayed my trust in your pastoral counsel and preyed upon my weakness and vulnerability."
from a variety of FFF'rs:
"You feel bitterness to him for ending the relationship so abruptly but accuse him of displaying false repentance because he "got caught"? You got caught too and your "repentance" seems just as contrived."
"My only criticism would be the bitterness and hatred that oozed from your post. Honestly, most of us could care less about either side. What could you hope to gain by posting here?"
"For a woman to blame a man that she has been unfaithful with for months is ludicrous. She is not a YOUNG woman nor was she naive. I don't care to know details. I don't even HAVE to know the details. Two people chose to broke the covenant in each of the marriages and the havoc and destruction that is left should be shared by both. Did Marty use his title to woo her? Who knows! Did she use her womanly charms to seduce him? Who knows?"
"I also find it hard to believe. If your life was shattered, would you seek out a forum of unknowns? Why should she care what any of US think?"
"I don't think you have much to gain from posting more, and I have a feeling you will have plenty of opportunity to get hurt if you stick around."
All of this is a FAR cry, from the supportive posts given for Marty Braemer, the fallen pastor:
"I've never met you personally but you seem very sincere at the present time and you have always seemed like a good man with a good heart...I am sorry that you made this grave error in judgement and hope that you and your family wil get through this without continued heatache."
"Extending our prayers and well wishes for all parties involved."
"I am very impressed with your forthrightness, something we see very little of in our day. I pray that God and men alike will help you through this time of restoration, and that God will be able to use you in some capacity for His glory in the future."